Friends and Acquaintances?

I've always had a diverse selection of friends from different walks of life.  But one thing I have never been able to do was successfully blend the different groups into one setting at a given time.  Perhaps it is one of those things where no matter how much I want to try, oil and water simply won't mix.   The personalities of my different groups of friends will not mix.  Nonetheless, they are all my friends and I take each one with different value for their individuality.

I have heard before that success in life can be measured by friendships.  While I may have met many people in my life, there are only a certain few who I would consider my closest and best friends.   Only a few people I could depend on if I were ever in need of help.  Those are the people I value most as friends.  Some people are just cool to know, but we may not have reached that level of strong friendship.  It's not necessarily because it's not desired, but simply we haven't reached that level yet.  Others who I have known for years, I don't necessarily trust and cannot call them best friends.   Overtime, certain actions became realized and I saw that those who called themselves friends have not been sincere.   People who acted behind my back and betrayed my trust have lost my respect.  Those who make up false accusations and spread rumors based on their own assumptions are not true friends.   Others have been complete and total flakes unable to honor their commitments.  I have grown tired of people who cancel out on things at the last moment.   It's one thing when someone has to cancel plans for valid emergencies, but it's another when someone just doesn't show up without calling or cancel within hours with a flimsy excuse.  I have dropped people from my circle over the last year and a half because someone who doesn't have the courtesy to call before flaking isn't worth my time.  If someone does not feel apologetic for their actions, then they can simply fuck off.  I certainly do not care for the attitude of someone who passes judgment because she thinks having a few drinks on a Friday night at a club automatically qualifies one as an addicted alcoholic requiring AA, nor do I care for the smug third degree of someone who seems to question the quality of parenthood if a couple goes out for an evening and leaves their children with a relative to baby-sit.  It is NOT uncommon for parents to spend some time together while the kids stay in with the grandparents.

When I started typing, I was prepared to write about those who have burned me the past few years.  But as I continued on, I realized there is no point in doing so.  They're just not important enough to waste anymore time thinking about.  My true friends know who they are.  They are the ones who are important to me.   The flakes in my life know who they are because their own actions dictate it and they would be totally clueless if they don't recognize their own behavior.  If someone doesn't show me respect, then they really aren't my friend. 

Those who I call my closest friends, I value who they are and what they mean to me.  These are the people I respect.  These are the people I know will be there for me when needed and equally so I will be there for them when needed.  Others, I will get to know better as time allows.  Regardless of what level the friendship, each one is important to me.  Show me respect and I shall do the same.


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"Fate chooses your relations, you choose your friends."
- Jacques Delille (1738 - 1813) French poet.

"The only reward of virtue is virtue; the only way to have a friend is to be one."
- Ralph Waldo Emerson

"It is one of the blessings of old friends that you can afford to be stupid with them."
- Ralph Waldo Emerson

"True happiness consists not in the multitude of friends, but in their worth and choice."
- Samuel Johnston

"True friendship is a plant of slow growth, and must undergo and withstand the shocks of adversity before it is entitled to the appellation."
- George Washington

"It is not so much our friends' help that helps us as the confident knowledge that they will help us."
- Epicurus (341 - 270 BC) Greek philosopher.

"Be slow to fall into friendship; but when thou art in, continue firm and constant."
- Socrates, Greek Philosopher

"The making of friends, who are real friends, is the best token we have of a man's success in life."
- Edward Everett Hale